Disconnected relationships and sex, rage and anger among black men have a hidden but common issue. In the consciousness community, we have much knowledge about our African ancestors but little in the form of wisdom from their teachings. Why are so many young men resorting to violence in too many of our communities?
The easy answer is to blame white supremacy and racism. It’s real. But we CANNOT expect to change whites and make our problems go away!
We have to find ways to do that internally on all levels. That means personally, family, and community.
Why has all the “knowledge” we have accumulated not translated into widespread change in black communities? Part of it is even though many conscious folk no longer are religious, they still hold on to their value system they got from religion.
In religion, you could memorize a whole bunch of scriptures but that doesn’t mean the knowledge is applied in your life. As conscious folk we take in much knowledge, but for far too many it isn’t applied to their daily lives.
When I was religious, we used to say “pray about it!” In the conscious community, I hear “spread the knowledge.” They both are having the same effect in the black community. That means neither is bringing about change.
I don’t mean to imply that knowledge is not needed. What I am saying is we need to go to the next level. But how?
I want to use ancient Kemetic science principles to connect some dots that may not be so obvious on the surface. It’s about principles the science can teach. But also about the wisdom beyond the knowledge that can be gained.
Wisdom is the inner contemplation of knowledge. There is a direct link to lack of quality of life in the black community and lack of wisdom. Please don’t take that as an attack or put down of black people. It is an observation I will explain here.
In this post you will get a deeper understanding of the idea called the divine masculine and divine feminine that because of a lack of wisdom, negatively impacts men. In the wisdom teachings, it is understanding how duality and the number two works as a function within the universe as an expression of the source of all.
By the end of the blog post, you will have the knowledge on how to practically apply the divine masculine and divine feminine in your life.
Conditioning men at an early age
Let’s connect this idea to men and sexuality. On the surface, it may seem disconnected, but let’s get deep as the ancestors would.
Why is it that men crave sex so much? This is one of those questions that has perplexed women through the centuries. There are all kinds of pop psychology that want to explain what seems to be an epidemic of men that only want sex and can’t be faithful.
This is not to make an excuse for men. It’s to get deeper into the issue of why men are disconnected from loving a woman deeply. Yes, there are many men that are able to love women deeply and faithfully. However, there is an epidemic of broken trust in the black community between men and women.
Men in any demographic have a shorter lifespan than women. It’s
connected to the same reason many men are unable to form deep lasting relationships with women. It’s a quality of life issue that we could connect by understanding the ancient African sciences beyond simple book knowledge.
The issue starts as young as pre-school age. I have been a middle school teacher for a number of years. I listen to the conversation of thirteen and fourteen-year-old boys and recognized they had already been trained to disconnect from the natural ability to connect meaningfully deeply to others.
I watched as they would take pictures of each other with their cellphones and the young men wouldn’t smile in the pictures. They wanted to look menacing and “hard.”
I would listen to how they would berate any young man that showed sadness or “having their feelings hurt.”
These are the symptoms at an early age, of men that grow up interested in a woman for only that one thing. It’s because of the disconnect.
Here are some of the training phrases that these young men got early from home:
Big boys don’t cry
Be a man!
How often do you hear mothers and fathers make those statement to young boys on a football field or a basketball court? Mothers and fathers if you make these statement to your young sons you are doing a disservice to them and to the women who will love them.
The middle school kids would reinforce these ideas with phrases like:
Grow some balls!
Don’t be a pussy!
Are you on your period?
Quit acting like a bitch!
This deal is, it ends up being harmful to men psychologically but it also negatively impacts women.
The main problem is not connecting to their feminine side. Don’t shut down on this last statement. There is a deeper level to understand about the idea of the divine masculine and divine feminine.
This is where too many “conscious” folk have the book knowledge, but not the wisdom that comes from going within to apply the knowledge they get. it’s no different than we did as Christians. We would read bible scriptures just memorizing but not applying. Waiting on Jesus to magically do the work for us.
No personal introspection. No personal responsibility. No way to self-correct. That’s all accumulating knowledge can and had done in the black community.
Buying into hyper-masculinity is killing our boys and men
In our hyper-masculine society, men do not cultivate healthy ways to connect to their emotions. It amazes me that so many “conscious” people have knowledge about divine masculine and feminine but have no idea how it applies to everyday life.
It amazes me how many “conscious” folk post the training phrases on social media never considering the consequences in our communities, our relationships, and our families.
So much of the knowledge of our African ancestors was about connecting to what we call today, the divine feminine aspect. This concept is lost on most in modern society. They think “Divine Feminine” equates to being and acting like a female.
The divine feminine is practical and universal
Divine Feminine is a Metaphor used by the ancients to describe functionality within symbolism and myth. It is using the female womb to express a universal concept.
Functionally speaking the divine feminine as an ancient metaphor is like:
- Inside the womb,
- a container, it’s dark,
- has water,
- and all contents in it are hidden from sight
- and new creations are birthed from it.
It’s a symbolic representation. Not literal. It’s a metaphor to describe functionality. Describing what something is like, NOT what it is. Get a deeper understanding here. The concept is based in ancient numerology.
The divine feminine is about connecting to the inner self. It’s universal for men and women to connect within. That’s the FUNCTION of the divine feminine.
But it’s ignorance of understanding and applying ancient concepts in modern times that is damaging relationships and keeping us boxed into a certain way of thinking and behaving. Divine masculine and divine feminine is just such a concept that is misused due to ignorance.
What does this have to do with men and sexuality?
For the most part, it’s unacceptable for a man to demonstrably connect to his emotions which are part of divine feminine aspect. The exceptions are anger and rage.
For men and boys, anger and rage are usually the only acceptable emotions they can show without being ridiculed, chastised, or made fun of on some level by the people closest to them. but there are not many other ways that men are allowed to be emotional. EXCEPT, through sex.
Most men don’t, especially young men, recognize the underlying reason for the sex drive in them. In the younger formative years’ sexual gratification becomes one of the main driving forces in his life.
part of that is the drive to mate and procreate of course.
But most men are stunted emotionally in our hyper-masculine modern society. As stated above, the phrases “man up,” or “be a man,” “don’t act like a pussy,” etc. are all well understood by the average adolescent boy. They are exhortations to not feel what is within him.
They are commands to disconnect from his emotions and inner self; their divine feminine.
Through sex with his woman, a man can tap into the deeper aspects of his inner being, if only for a few joyous moments and not be ridiculed for the inward emotional journey. Sadly, as a society, we don’t really explore that deep and powerful connection beyond sex because of religious hangups.
As a man understand that the time has come for you to connect deeper within yourself. All the wisdom of the ages is in that inner space. The cures for our families, our children, and our communities will be found in that inner space, not the pages of a book. I’m not saying books are not important. They are. But knowledge is not enough.
Our creative problem solving comes from the divine feminine aspect. Contemplating the next move is use of the divine feminine. It all happens within. Then through the divine masculine action is taken.
Get unstuck from the hyper-masculine trap
Brothers, don’t get stuck in the hyper-masculine trap of banning and disconnecting your emotions until you are between the thighs of the object of your desire.
Our ancestors practiced balance in all phases of their life. They called it Maat. If you barricade yourself within a wall of the manly code of being unemotional then you will have the fate of most men in our society.
That fate is to die at a younger age than the female within your demographic. There is a direct connection to the emotional quality of your life and your lifespan. If you don’t think that’s true then ask yourself why the average married man lives longer?
Answer: Because they can connect emotionally with the woman he loves and connect inwardly to himself.
Men have a high sex drive because of the need to connect to their own inner feminine aspect. The secret is; it’s not just the sex but the emotional expression that lights up the soul. When you orgasm it is a cosmic event. In that moment you have the closest connection to the source. We all crave that connection to source. However, men are socialized to disconnect.
Through getting a deeper understanding of the Kemetic practice of Ma’at men will become more balanced in all aspects of their life. Black men have the lowest life expectancy than any other group in America!
Part of that is because in many ways we are the most abused when showing what is perceived as weakness. Women are seen as the “weaker” sex. Women are “emotional.”
A much deeper understanding is that women are more in touch with their divine feminine because it has always been socially acceptable for them to be and not for men. It is less acceptable for her to show here divine masculine side.
She is seen as pushy, aggressive, manly, etc.
We can’t continue to circulate the “knowledge” but not know how to apply it. Lack of connecting to the inner self on a regular basis is a prime reason that so many of our young men walk around with an anger that can’t be extinguished. It’s the prime reason hypertension and high blood pressure manifest in our older men.
The former explodes in acts of violence. The latter is a slow seething disconnected journey to death. But both are the same underlying principle. Disconnected from their inner self.
This has got to change. As black men, we must recognize the principles that underly our behaviors. We must do so for our own well being first and by default our women, families, and communities will be a beneficiary. Learning the ways of our ancestors will do this in a way that will free men and women from the hyper-masculine emotionally stunted male.
For a black woman, an inwardly connected enlightened man will be a better partner. As a black man, your life, our families, and our communities depend on gaining and connecting to the inner wisdom of the divine feminine. As a society, we can no longer afford to live disconnected.
Funny thing is, as Christians that idea was imparted to us but we didn’t have the wisdom to go deeper. Ephesians 6:2-3, “2 Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; 3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.” Exchange father and mother with masculine and feminine. It takes on a deeper meaning beyond the literal way we were taught the bible.
As long as we have:
- emotionally disconnected men,
- disconnected knowledge not applicable in our daily lives
as a community we will forever chase our tails. “Know thyself” is a command to connect to the divine feminine. Be you man or woman, the power to change the world, OUR world, will be birthed from honoring the divine feminine.