Always expecting the hookup exposes your negative self-image

As a black person, when you immediately ask or expect a black business owner to “hook you up” it is a reflection of how you value that owner and their service. Subliminally, it is a reflection of your own negative self-image.

It’s based in being mentally conditioned in a way that makes it difficult for you to determine value.

You probably have never considered the underlying belief system and mentality when you go to someone black, in business, and ask for discounts (the hookup)? Most people think they are asking for a favor in getting a discount for the product or services the owner offers.

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But why do you ask or expect a price reduction from this particular business owner?

The underlying belief is that a person of color is not worth what they ask for in exchange for his or her product or service. Why else would you immediately ask for the hookup?

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Negative self-image impacts all aspects of your life

In a way, it is saying more about the mentality of you asking for the hookup. It is saying you don’t value someone that is the same race and culture as you would someone of another race and culture. Because you don’t value yourself you don’t value the skills and services of those that look like you.

Value vs. Price

There is a difference in assessing the value of something rather than accepting the price. Value is determined intrinsically. It is based on that person’s internal compass and what they feel about the worth of a thing. Another way to say this is value is based purely on perception. YOUR perception. A person with a negative self-image will not be comfortable with assessing value.

Why? because they might get it wrong! If they get it “wrong” it feeds into a feeling of self-worth that is already low. They would rather find areas of agreement with others. In other words, they would rather pay a price rather than buying based on how they valued.

If you are a person that needs your opinions validated by everyone around you, then you will not be comfortable with assessing value.

A price is chosen for you. A price for something is agreed on by others. When you know the price you can be safe in assuming that everyone else thinks or will think the same way about what this thing is worth. You don’t have to evaluate the worth or value of that product to you. You can reject or accept the predetermined price of that thing. Price is determined for you. You can find comfort in knowing that everyone else paid the same price. Your self-image will be intact because you paid what everyone else paid.

Why is this important to understand? Because people that are uncomfortable with trusting their own internal convictions about certain aspects of their life would rather be told how and what to think. They would rather be told the price of something than having to determine what it’s worth to them.

This is really deep because it exposes a mindset. A way of moving through life on many levels. This is not just a black thing. It is societal but very acute in the black community.

Being religious is one example living with a price based mentality. As a Christian, my moral compass was determined by a set of values dictated by the scriptures. Even if they were contradictory. For example, all human beings are worthy of life and the love of God. Except if you happen to love someone of the same sex. They didn’t stop being human. Something outside of you dictated how you should view the sexuality of another human being and whether they are worthy to be loved. That’s analogous to having a price dictated to you.

In the Kemetic cosmology, their was no issue of loving another human being for a perceived difference. Most indigenous cultures think that way because they believe in the idea that we are all the source of creation in another form. It is only once source therefore we are all it.

That’s how a respect for nature and other animals came about. Even though that animal may need to be food on your table you still thanked it for giving its life to save yours. You respected it. The same with mother earth. Among indigenous people, there was a profound respect for the representation of God in another form.

A  disconnected example is Christians who are white and racist that have used the bible to justify their racism. They don’t determine right or wrong based on set of principles. It is based on rules that become contradictions more times than not.

The point in both examples is that many people would rather be told how to think and how to value people and things rather than to make that determination on based on a set of values that may not agree with the group and society as a whole.

It is fear that drives this need to fit in, comply, and conform for these type people. They don’t value their own uniqueness so they would rather fit in with a group. Even if it means devaluing another human being.

I recently started investing in the fantastic world of Bitcoin and cryptocurrencies. In this space, you have to be able to determine value. But many people of all races and nationalities are not comfortable with making their own assessment about which investments they should make.

They wait to be told by someone they feel has more knowledge and experience what to invest in. That’s very smart on one level. But many won’t do their own due diligence and determine from their own criteria if a particular cryptocurrency is worth the risk for them. They are afraid to determine the value of a currency based on their own criteria. They simply follow the crowd.

You are unique and beautiful

With black people as a group, we have been taught not to value our unique abilities and beauty. Living with racism and white supremacy has fostered a legacy of people that fear not being “normal” and fitting into societies idea of “normal.” Around the world, people of color find value in things that make us seem, lighter and have “good hair” for examples.

We live relative to white society always looking at ourselves through their prism. And because we are not them and “normal” we devalue just about every aspect of who we are.

We are more comfortable living in a “price” dictated society (White supremacy and religious) rather than determining our own value based on our own criteria.

We must begin to think as our ancestors did and recognize that we are the source in human form. We are a god/goddess.  In that way we can value our god/goddess self and the god/goddess self of others.

Because we don’t value our own individual beauty and culture we are unable to assess the value of the business person that looks like us who offers a product or service. Expecting it to be free or asking for a cheaper price has nothing to do with holding them accountable for giving bad service or an inferior product.

Because it is your initial contact with them, it has everything to do with the color of the skin of the business person.

You prejudge that person with the thought they should give you a cheaper price simply because they are black like you and lucky that would give them any business at all. In other words, you don’t value who you are, so you don’t value the business owner that looks like you and what they have to offer.

In your world programmed by white supremacy and racism, It says this: An ice machine at a black restaurant doesn’t make ice as cold as an ice machine at a white-owned restaurant. Therefore, you should ask for a discount. Black skills and know-how is not as good as white skills and know how. Therefore, you should get the “hookup.”

If you are asking for the hookup without assessing the experience and skill of that business person simply because they share your skin color and culture then it is ultimately a reflection of how you view yourself, not that business person.

It takes courage and personal conviction to establish how valuable something is based on no other reason than your own internal system of values. It is so whether you are investing in a business or patronizing it.

it takes moving through the world recognizing that life is your own subjective expression from within.

That is a powerful perspective!

Negative self-image must change

Changing a negative self-image and learning to determine value will be critical for the black community to move forward. It will be a shift in consciousness and mindset. It is a shift in being internally driven rather than externally motivated and controlled.

We must build ourselves within in order to build a community, businesses, and a nation that are a reflection of those inner values. Right now, just about everything we do is a reaction to being priced as worthless in a society that does not value us.

We can no longer afford the “hookup” mentality. We must begin to derive value from our own set of standards. That mentality will be priceless and bring great value to all.

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Being spiritual does not mean act a certain way

So many people think being spiritual means you are supposed to “act” a certain way. You shouldn’t do this or that because you are “spiritual.” If you hold on to that idea, recognize that you are not being authentically you.Quote

Being you means that you are journeying through this experience. In the above way of thinking, you should arrive at a destination of spiritual perfection. That is no more than Christian Hangover syndrome. We are all in a dance of becoming. In this dance, sometimes we lead, sometimes we follow.

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The key is to be ok with being authentically who you are in the moment. Being you may mean you are the lead in a lesson for another. That may mean to learn that lesson they may need to be cussed the F*** out!

You being authentically you may be the only person that can teach them that lesson. Following may mean you learn to value yourself and stick up for who you are. or were they the lead? Hmmm

But if you are in that “turn the other cheek mode” you’re not being you and they don’t learn not to treat people a certain way.

Don’t keep suffering from CHS and “acting” spiritual, be you. Being you is a beautiful journey always unfolding. We all are at different places in our journey, some further along in some areas and not so far along in another area.

The key is to recognize and enjoy the dance within the journey, not try to reach the ultimate destination of know-it-all spiritual enlightenment.

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How ancients chose animal symbols [video]

Ever consider how certain animals became symbolic of certain ideas? Did ancient Egyptians put animals on the heads of Neters because they worshiped them? Or was there a deeper symbolic meaning? If you believe our ancestors had a primitive and unsophisticated mind you would believe the former. This video shows how sheep naturally behave. They simply follow the leader. The ancient Egyptians used animals as symbols for ideas. They were extremely exacting in what they used.

Looking at this video reminds me of being called a member of the “flock” while in church. Jesus was known as the “Good Shepard.” A nick name that originated in Egypt.

In all Khemetic/Egyptian symbolism, when you want to get a deeper understanding of the characteristics of a Neter, learn more about the animal they use to represent the ideas.

The characteristics of the animals is a metaphor for the “superpowers” of the Neter.

The Difference of being religious or spiritual

 

What is the difference between being religious and being spiritual?

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Religion is like being a thermometer, Spirituality is like being a thermostat

As a Christian I was taught being spiritual and religious were the same thing. But they have very different effects on our lives. Because of how religion is oriented, feelings of anxiety, depression, anger, grief, and confusion is normalized. In other words, because so many people in religion suffer from the same afflictions people believe it is how things are supposed to be!

In other words, because so many people in religion suffer from the same afflictions people believe it is how things are supposed to be!

Religion does have spiritual components. That’s why it can attract and hold “believers.” People stay because they believe the natural spiritual components to be unique to the religion. But the spiritual components of religion are not unique to religion.

Feelings of awe and wonder when you connect to the larger version of yourself is NORMAL. In Christianity, you are taught that this experience is because you connected to Jesus in some way. But the truth is it has nothing to do with the name you call it as you were taught in religion. A Muslim and a Jew have the same experience. Neither of them believes in Jesus as God. Its part of the human experience.

Let me make this clear spirituality does not need a group or a name. It is singularly personal and subjective.

I promote learning of African spirituality because it is the basis of the Christian religion. it is something that most African-Americans are intimately familiar with. When I connect biblical teachings to their origin in Africa it shows the African diaspora that our ancestors contributed to the world MANY great things beyond slaves and resources.

It is also a framework in which to gain deeper metaphysical knowledge and develop self-confidence. It is a change to gain a perspective that will allow you to live life authentically you.

One of the fears I see put out across social media by Christians is the fear of being judged by other Christians. Why is there such a culture of being so judgemental toward others in Christianity?

I believe it goes deep into the idea of most religions and Christianity in particular that there is a “right” way to live and exist on earth.

The idea that one religion had the ultimate truth is something that was unique to Christianity. No other religions in antiquity made this claim.

People are judgemental today because so many of them find it difficult to live the “right way” or “righteously” that they must find fault in others so that they don’t feel so negatively about themselves.

Within the original teachings, personal authenticity was a key component. It was recognized that every part of creations was a representation of the original source.

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Ancient Egyptians saw everything as one with the source

The bible says this by saying we are all made in the image of God, but in practice, we were taught that we were different. We are made in “his” image but “He” could send us to hell for eternity.

 

The idea that you must conform to some ideal is a contradiction that most of us know does not work in real life. But, a disconnect is taught in Christianity. Anyone that has two children will know not to make one be like the other. The child that is made to feel that their authentic being is somehow seen as inferior to the other usually rebels.

But in Christianity, we are taught to be like a perfect Godman that walked the earth. It is an impossible task to live in comparison to some perceived perfect individual. You are taught that you are defective.

This takes you right back to the idea why there is so much judgment of others in Christianity. Basically, if I can’t be perfect let me point out that others are not either. My sin is not as bad as their sin.

The truth is the system of Christianity is defective. It’s not you. You are a spiritual being having a human experience.

You were born spiritual and taught religion. They are not the same.

5 major religious beliefs that mentally destroys black communities

Religious beliefs and doctrines that promote low self-esteem like “being unworthy in the sight of God” have borne fruit in African-American communities all across America. They are harming the people in our communities and cause black to people struggle.

What is not recognized is we are participants in our own demise and willingly but unconsciously use psychological tools designed to limit self-esteem and individual self-expression.

 

The ideas expressed in the quote above are the very essence of what has been taught to us as adults and what we lovingly teach our children on a daily basis.

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Nation builders must believe they are worthy to be successful and happy

According to Branden healthy self-esteem has two components. Self-efficacy; which is a basic sense of confidence in the face of life’s challenges. and Self-respect; which is the sense of being worthy of happiness.

Doctrines of brokenness

Both of these components are preached against every Sunday in Christian Churches across America.

Those of us that grew up in the Christian Church were routinely taught doctrines like:

  • You are unworthy in the sight of God
  • You are born in sin and are sinful by nature
  • As a sinner, you are broken and need to be fixed
  • If you have ANY value it’s not because of anything you have done, or could ever do, it’s only because of God’s loving grace
  • you are weak and in need of the strength that can only come from a savior

All of these doctrines have been taught as a foundation of what it means to be humble and righteous in the African American community.

But, in the black Church, the fruits of the message coupled with the historical images of worship have had a devastating effect. These doctrines are never discussed in the churches and how they affect the very essence of an individual and the community at large.

There is a realization that Africans in America need to build a community, an economy with viable businesses, and rebuild families within our communities. Everybody agrees on these points.

Exceptions don’t build a nation

But how can a person start a business when the basic beliefs you are taught are in conflict with the attitude needed to develop a business?

How can you mentally survive the ups and downs of a startup when you believe that you are unworthy to even be happy and successful?

How can you even start a business when you believe that you are born defective in some way and can’t even fix the defect without an outside savior to intervene? What happens mentally when things go wrong and the savior and the perceived oppressor look the same?

How can an adolescent that makes a mistake in their life recover when they believe they have a sinful nature? In other words, their defect is the essence and nature of who they are.

Do they develop a mindset that will empower them to make life changes or do they gravitate towards solutions that will mask their pain? You already know the answer. Look in black communities around the nation and you see drug use is rampant and hopelessness the order of the day.

It’s the legacy of religious doctrines passed on to slaves to keep us in bondage. We don’t even question the effects of what we have been taught and what we lovingly teach our children.

Overcoming these toxic Christian doctrines becomes the heroic exception, not the rule. Exceptions don’t build a nation.

Arguing for your defect

People that believe they are lacking or broken do not become high achievers. The Black community has these beliefs reinforced in most churches every Sunday.

A whole nation of people that believe they are broken and need someone to fix them.

A nation of people that believe they are unworthy.

A nation of people that believe they are sinful and have a broken nature.

A nation of people that are taught they are NOTHING and of NO VALUE but God loves them in spite of themselves. You’re not special, just blessed and lucky.

A nation of people waiting on a savior to swoop down and smite their enemies.

These beliefs lower self-esteem and cause self-loathing. People of low self-esteem fear failure. In their mind failure becomes proof OF their defects rather than an opportunity to learn and grow. Fear of failure alone will stop most people from ever stepping out of their comfort zone to start a business.

Many black people will argue for their defects believing that it makes them more spiritual. “God saved a wretch like me”, “I’m nothing without God.”

How do you build yourself, a business, or a community arguing for your defects?

If you can’t believe in and accept yourself how can you accept that you can fail but not be a failure?

It’s not just about business building in the community either.

Unworthy Men and Women

How do you build healthy relationships when you see yourself as broken and in need of a savior. Black women have this idea constantly pounded into them every Sunday. You NEED a man. You NEED a covering. If you don’t have a man marry Jesus.

Depression is a major issue for black women in the church. These doctrines are a major factor. To top it off getting professional help is shunned, viewed as a weakness and separation from God.

Men who are taught as being sinners, broken and unworthy are unable to relate to a woman that is self-assured, conscious of her own right to be a sovereign individual, and self-assertive because she is a threat to his diminished self-esteem and “manhood.”

There is a direct link to the abuse of women in this country and church doctrines that teach men, women should be subservient to him. To a man with low self-esteem that is regularly affirmed in the name of being humble and Godly any women with high self-esteem is a threat to his already fragile psyche.

 

But, the connection of female abuse, in this country, and church doctrines is pretty much ignored in the black community. Women are abused every day and the church turns their head.

 

Toxic doctrines

People of the African diaspora hear me! As long as toxic religious church doctrines given to our slave ancestors and passed on to us are at the foundation of building ourselves and our communities, our businesses, and our relationships we will be ill-equipped to change the tide of destruction in our communities.

You cannot be at odds with the basic components of self-acceptance and build anything. You must FIRST build yourself and then the world around you will reflect that which is within.

We must get in touch with the spiritual system of our ancestors. What you now worship is a repackaged version of the knowledge and wisdom of the ancients. It was misunderstood. Believing in someone else’s understanding is killing us from the inside out.

Stop teaching our children that they are broken, weak and in need of someone else’s strength, that they are unworthy in the eyes of God to be happy and healthy. It’s destroying them before they have had a chance to move through life!

We see the fruits of that message in the condition of our communities nationwide.

Many great nations were built in Africa before colonialism. High Self-esteem, self-respect, and Self-efficacy was a major key to that success.

To continue holding on to toxic doctrines means that as a people we will succeed in spite of our beliefs not because of them. Those few that overcome the slave mentality will be the heroic exceptions.

We cannot afford to leave our brand of religion unexamined any longer. Our survival depends on us being self-assertive, conscious, and believing that we are worthy of and have the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness in this country and around the world.